And there was no more midnight munching. In other words, there are times when I act like I'm on Grindr even when I'm not. I was 12 the first time I connected muscularity with gayness. In his article "Out of the Closet and Into the Gym," Duncan acknowledges that the idealized male physique is "a major point of cultural reference in the dominant representation of gay men. I didn't know I was skinny-fat until my Russian boyfriend told me so. But is it true that male muscularity has always been idealized throughout history?
The obvious question is, why did I allow my boyfriend to influence how I saw my body?
The Tyranny of Buffness
Klein in a book titled Little Big Men. Some research suggests that gay men and straight men share similar concern for their bodies, but because of the pressures of heterosexual society, straight men don't feel comfortable talking about it. The term "window-shopping" immediately jumped out at me. As far as Giles is concerned, beauty acts hierarchically in the gay community. Some of these negative effects include low self-esteem, eating disordersand body dysmorphia. And the fact is - we shouldn't feel like we have to.